What is it about a guy being a total dick to a woman that makes her want him even more? Is it that he reminds her of her father? Is it just a matter of him being a challenge for her to tame? Is it the bad boy thing that gets her? Well speaking from 23 years, 11 months, and 23 days of experience as an asshole, I’m here to tell you exactly what it is. It’s the blatant (sometimes brutal) HONESTY that you give her.
There’s so much that you put out in the open by being an asshole, almost as if you’re saying “This is the real me. I’m very blunt and sometimes I’m even rude. Take it or leave it.” It makes women want to take the time to find out more about you. I know you’re probably saying “Toine…what the fuck are you talking about?” But just think about it for a minute before you write me off. When a woman meets a nice guy, the first thought in her mind is “He’s too good to be true. I don’t trust him” or “Wow he’s really nice. He must want something. I hope he doesn’t think he’s getting any of this.” And when she tells her friends what do they all say??? “Girl, don’t trust him. He’s just tryna get some pussy.”
Why are women repulsed by nice guys? Because in a woman’s mind, there IS NO SUCH THING as a genuine nice guy. They were taught growing up don’t trust any man, especially the ones that treat them well in the beginning because they’ll be the ones to switch up later on down the road after they get what they want. If you’re already an asshole you save women the trouble of second-guess you. You’re already a jerk in her eyes, and what man is going to pretend to be a dickhead? Men only lie about being nice guys, not about being who they really are, assholes.
I sincerely believe the more you show a woman that you don’t give a fuck about impressing her, the more she wonders “Hmmm why doesn’t he chase me?” She wants to be the one who can deal with your assholeness (Yea I made it up. Sue me. *OJ shrug*) and compel you to treat her differently than all the others. She wants to be the woman who can say “I changed him.”
Now fellas, keep in mind that being yourself is always the best option when you’re dealing with a female. In no way am I telling you to be an asshole to impress a woman (Not ALL women like assholes anyway, just most. Like 95%). Being inauthentic, whether it’s pretending to be an asshole when you’re really a nice guy at heart or vice versa, won’t help your love life. Your best bet is to keep it real from the beginning. If you’re an asshole, be an asshole and enjoy the freedom of not having to pretend to be something you’re not.
-Antoine R. Nolley
