Sex with your EX… by Lindsey M. Williams
Can having sex with your EX be justified? If the two of you broke up, then what is the point of still being attached to one another? These questions I am asking have answers that vary due to the actual ending terms of the relationship.
Some people in relationships that end on good terms, feel that when they continue to have sex with one another, it is a mutual agreement. Kind of like a “sex contract” with one another, no strings attached. This act of sex under these circumstances shows mutual understanding and does not deem sex in a negative connotation. The comfort zone in which the two EX’s coincide leaves space for sexual encounters. But what happens when the EX is not only sleeping with you? Do you have any reason to be mad? Male or female, a mix of emotions can come into play if something like this occurs and ultimately be a set up for drama.
After breaking up, most sexual encounters are often known as “booty-calls”. When you have nobody else it is always that one person who you know is still emotionally attached to you that will come running back in a heartbeat. Therefore, sex with them in your eyes is casual, but to them it may mean something more. This may be very unhealthy because it leaves room for mixed emotions and feelings, for example hopes of “getting back together “or “making things work”. But little do they know this is not the case.
Some people have sex with their ex’s after they have both moved on to other people and are in new relationships. Why is that? Maybe it is because the sex is good. In some cases where only one ex has moved on, the other may think these frequent sexual encounters are bonds that hold them together. This can be very unhealthy for the new relationship and the old one. At the end of the situation no outcome can be good because too many individual’s feelings are involved and someone is bound to get hurt.
From a female perspective, some find it comfortable to still engage in sexual activities with an ex boyfriend to prevent us from having sex with someone else. This can be because of a fear of being called out of your name or being depicted as something that you may not necessarily be. And all because of sex with someone other than your ex. Inevitably that yearning for a males comfort is ultimately thought of in terms of someone you had deep feelings for and you are comfortable opening your legs to. For a man on the other hand, it may be nothing more than simply what it is, SEX.
Having sex with your ex can be very unhealthy emotionally on both parts. This leaves room for questioning whether or not the relationship between the two of you is really over, and if the love is still there. Don’t leave room for questions. If it’s over, it’s over. At the end of the day, if that person is your EX, they are your EX for a reason. Holding on in any way is unnecessary if the two of you agreed to move on. An EX is an EX-ample of what you shouldn’t deal with again in the future! Set higher EX-Pectations, & EX-clude unqualified applicants!
