You’ve been with him for a few weeks, perhaps a few months, and even a couple of years. Now he’s left you stranded, broken-hearted, and lonely. How do you fix this? Here are a few tips to help you get over a ruptured heart.
- Stop stalking. At this very moment I’m sure you want to know what he’s up to. You might want to check his Twitter, his Facebook-hell you’ll even go on his old MySpace page. Listen up: this will ruin you. What he’s doing at this moment, at this time, and during the reading of this posting should mean nothing to you. He holds little regard for you now and most likely, he’s not that sensitive to your plight. All the more reason for you to can him – delete him. The only common denominator that you should share with this man is the fact that you are both connected to the same network of friends.
- Don’t bother asking for details. Details are not always important to men. In many cases, we omit the details because we’re afraid to tell you the truth (yea…we need to man up) or we simply don’t want to hurt you as much as we already have. It is important for you to understand that it is not necessarily in the DNA of men (and boys) to give you specifics as to why we’re letting you go. Some of us, though mature, are alienated and not akin to detail, so don’t take the lack of communication personal.
- Tell your friends to “shut the hell up.” We’ve all been there. The female friends who reiterate time and time again that “he was never good for you anyway.” The snitch male friend who has an adorning infatuation for you, who would at every waking moment let you know that he’s seen your ex wrapped up with some other chick, or worst even – having a good time. You don’t need white noise crawling into your ears. It’s best to give your friends a disclaimer: shut the hell up.
- Treat yourself. Contrary to popular notion it is not “sad” for you to take yourself out on dates. Regular movie nights with yourself or your friends keep you occupied and happy.
- Don’t date just yet. Folks assume that the perfect remedy for getting over a broken heart is to find another man to repair it. This is both desperate and unfair. A rebound is no bueno. Especially, if the rebound ends up cutting things off with you. No one wants to give his energy trying to fix damage that can only be self-repaired. You should begin dating again when you get to a place where you know that if he comes running back to you – although you love(d) him – you won’t go back.
- The Good News. Every relationship has it’s wrinkle and no relationship is sure of surviving. But the good news about the break up between you and your man is that you’ll now be one guy closer to finding your true love. Isn’t that wonderful?
By: Manny Martinez
Manny Martinez lives in Brooklyn, NY.
Keep up with him by following him on twitter @steven718
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- The CLEMagazine Team
